Patsy Mckie

In August 1999 my life changed dramatically through the death of my son, who was shot in Hulme, Manchester. Dorrie was a vibrant lad with a caring heart and an undying loyalty to his friends. In fact, his death really opened my eyes to how much he was loved by the people around him. One of his friends told me: “He cared more for me than my dad ever did”.

Till the fatal shooting, my life – work, church, family – was ticking over nicely. I brought up six beautiful kids, who were doing well in university, sport and other careers. When Dorrie was growing up, he was a much-appreciated pupil at school, with good reports that commented especially on his character and his helpful attitude towards the younger kids.

Then, in the third year of college, a change occurred. Life became serious. The brother of one of his friends belonged to a gang and was shot in the leg. Some time later, one of Dorrie’s friends got shot in the chest and arm. It was a silly issue about a bike – but had grave consequences on the Manchester streets.

A year later, three fatal gang shootings occurred in one week, one of which killed my son. Dorrie, who had never been in trouble with the police in his life, however became the centre of a police enquiry through his death.

You do not bring up children without purpose and I am convinced you do not lose one of your children without purpose either. For me, my pain and my faith became a window into the Manchester society. After his death, my house was filled with young people, parents and elderly people who live in the neighbourhood.

Some time later, I met with a group of around 15 mothers who were fearful for the lives of their children and who knew either a family member or friend who had been a victim of gang shootings or other violent acts and ‘Mothers Against Violence’ was born. Our deepest desire is to put something back into the community. Young people learn from us adults.

I want to know why, when children grow up, the gangs have such an attraction despite all the violence. I have learned a lot from listening to them. A gang is their family. There is oneness, acceptance, agreement, and togetherness in a gang and for many it is the only way of being listened to and being heard.

My involvement with Mothers Against Violence (MAV) has brought me before the nation’s leaders. In MAV we come alongside grieving parents and parents who are concerned that their children will be caught up in gangs. We aim to go into schools and break the taboo about gangs and violence. We need to talk, and, much more important, we need to listen. I am still not really used to the idea that my son is not here. He is still so much part of our lives. The loss we feel in our family has given me compassion for young men. I am interested in what moves them and what they think.

Nelson Mandela once commented on the struggle in South African society by saying: “When women begin to take an active part, no power on earth can stop us from achieving freedom in our lifetime”. There is an enormous strength when people come together to join their vision, talent and energy in trying to transform a part of the hurting society in which we live. Heaven help us if we become apathetic to the violence, numb to the pain and deaf to the cry of the youth around us.

In Manchester, mothers have become an active part of this struggle with a steadfast commitment to see change come into our family and community life.

Patsy Mckie 

Founder Member of Mothers Against Violence & First Chairperson

6 Responses to Patsy Mckie

  1. John Fletcher says:

    Patsy, I commend the work you are undertaking with Mothers against violence, Mandella was right about the power of women, whether it be the streets of Manchester or Liverpool, or any City in the world. The strength and unity of mothers can have a lasting affect on removing violence from our society. It was seen some years ago on the streets of Derry and Belfast how mothers, sisters, aunties and daughters played a very important role in bringing together the 2 sides of the terrible secarianism that has inflicted so much heartache for years.
    Best wishes from a man with 4 daughters who respects and admires all that you endeavour to accomplish, to make this world a safer place for everyone

  2. Dear Ms, Patsy, I too would like to commend you on the work that you have held fast to for so long… I had reached out to you a few years back, I live in the city of Indianapolis In.where we have had a rash of violence for several years now, and the lives of so many have been, and are being infected with grief and pain…I had started a MAV here in the city but at the time did not have the help need to go full throttle, since then our situation has gotten no better, and with it my heart is heavier than it was before. I have once again arisen to the call of the work , and now have more Mothers that feel the same…I would Love to collaborate with you guys there, and if possible become a chapter here.

  3. Jo Green says:

    I am from Greater Manchester Police and Im trying to contact Patsy Mckie in order to invite her to a memorial event we are holding for Karin Mulligan. Would you be able to send me a contact email address for her so I can send the invitation onto her.

  4. Diane Lewis says:

    I am the widow of Steve Lewis who supported you after the loss of you son. He spoke so highly of you. He was a police officer with GMP.

    • ian says:

      Mrs Lewis

      I will pass on your words to Patsy. She always speaks well of the support received by GMP after the loss of her son.

      Kind regards

      Mothers Against Violence

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